Recommendations based on Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domesticby Esther Perel

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  1. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

    by Esther Perel
    An exploration of the psychology of cheating and relationships, challenging traditional notions of fidelity and monogamy.

    Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of, Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. An affair: it can rob a couple ... (Goodreads)

  2. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

    by James Clear
    A practical guide to creating and maintaining good habits, and breaking bad ones, using small, incremental changes.

    No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach ... (Goodreads)

  3. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

    by Emily Nagoski
    An exploration of sexuality, examining how to create a fulfilling sex life.

    An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. ... (Barnes & Noble)

  4. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

    by Christopher Ryan
    An exploration of the evolutionary and cultural origins of human sexuality.

    Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. Mainstream science–as well as religious and cultural institutions--has maintained that men and women evolved ... (Goodreads)

  5. Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life

    by Marshall B. Rosenberg
    A guide to understanding communication, fostering healthy relationships and resolving conflicts.

    Do you hunger for skills to improve the quality of your relationships, to deepen your sense of personal empowerment or to simply communicate more effectively? Unfortunately, for centuries our culture ... (Goodreads)

  6. The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

    by Harriet Lerner
    A guide for women to identify and change patterns of anger in their intimate relationships, leading to healthier communication and self-growth.

    The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It ... (Barnes & Noble)

  7. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

    by Charles Duhigg
    Uncovering the science of habit formation and how to use it to achieve success.

    A young woman walks into a laboratory. Over the past two years, she has transformed almost every aspect of her life. She has quit smoking, run a marathon, and been promoted at work. The patterns ... (Goodreads)

  8. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

    by Dossie Easton
    An exploration of ethical non-monogamy, providing insight into brave new approaches of intimate relationships.

    The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable. For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship ... (Goodreads)

  9. Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

    by Brené Brown
    An exploration of vulnerability, courage, and the strength to embrace imperfection.

    The #1, New York Times, bestseller. More than 2, million copies sold!,Look for Brené Brown’s new podcast,, Dare to Lead, as well as her ongoing podcast, Unlocking Us,!,From thought leader Brené ... (Barnes & Noble)

  10. Bonk: The Curious Coupling of Science and Sex

    by Mary Roach
    A humorous exploration of the science and research behind sex and human sexuality.

    In Bonk, the best-selling author of Stiff turns her outrageous curiosity and insight on the most alluring scientific subject of all: sex. Can a person think herself to orgasm? Why doesn't Viagra help ... (Goodreads)

  11. All About Love: New Visions

    by bell hooks
    A guide to understanding the power of love and changing perceptions of love in modern society.

    All About Love offers radical new ways to think about love by showing its interconnectedness in our private and public lives. In eleven concise chapters, hooks explains how our everyday notions of ... (Goodreads)

  12. Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle

    by Emily Nagoski
    A guide to understanding and managing stress, particularly for women, by completing the stress cycle through physical activity, connection, and rest.

    This groundbreaking book explains why women experience burnout differently than men—and provides a simple, science-based plan to help women minimize stress, manage emotions, and live a more joyful ... (Goodreads)

  13. The Conquest of Happiness

    by Bertrand Russell
    Philosophical exploration of the secrets to achieving true and lasting happiness.

    “Should be read by every parent, teacher, minister, and Congressman in the land.”―The Atlantic, In, The Conquest of Happiness, iconoclastic philosopher Bertrand Russell attempted to diagnose the ... (Barnes & Noble)

  14. Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World

    by Cal Newport
    A guide to reducing digital clutter and distractions, and finding balance in a world of constant connectivity.

    Minimalism is the art of knowing how much is just enough. Digital minimalism applies this idea to our personal technology. It's the key to living a focused life in an increasingly noisy world. In ... (Goodreads)

  15. The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less

    by Barry Schwartz
    An exploration of how the abundance of choice in modern life can lead to unhappiness and paralysis.

    In the spirit of Alvin Tofflers' Future Shock , a social critique of our obsession with choice, and how it contributes to anxiety, dissatisfaction and regret. Whether we're buying a pair of jeans, ... (Goodreads)

  16. Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teachings of Plants

    by Robin Wall Kimmerer
    An exploration of the reciprocal relationship between humans and nature, utilizing both Indigenous wisdom and scientific knowledge.

    As a botanist, Robin Wall Kimmerer has been trained to ask questions of nature with the tools of science. As a member of the Citizen Potawatomi Nation, she embraces the notion that plants and animals ... (Goodreads)

  17. Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

    by Cal Newport
    Strategies and techniques to help readers stay focused on tasks and achieve greater success.

    One of the most valuable skills in our economy is becoming increasingly rare. If you master this skill, you'll achieve extraordinary results. Deep work is the ability to focus without distraction on ... (Goodreads)

  18. The Art of Seduction

    by Robert Greene
    A comprehensive guide to mastering the art of seduction, drawing from the greatest seducers in history.

    The season's most talked-about all-purpose personal strategy guide and philosophical compendium," said Newsweek of Robert Greene's bold, elegant, and ingenious manual of modern manipulation, The 48 ... (Goodreads)

  19. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

    by Bessel van der Kolk
    Examining the physical, psychological and emotional effects of trauma, and how to heal.

    A pioneering researcher and one of the world’s foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing. Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful ... (Goodreads)

  20. Originals: How Non-Conformists Move the World

    by Adam M. Grant
    A study of successful non-conformists and their unique approaches to creativity, innovation, and leadership.

    In Originals the author addresses the challenge of improving the world from the perspective of becoming original: choosing to champion novel ideas and values that go against the grain, battle ... (Goodreads)

  21. French Women Don't Get Fat: The Secret of Eating for Pleasure

    by Mireille Guiliano
    A French woman's guide to enjoying food without gaining weight, emphasizing portion control, quality ingredients, and a balanced lifestyle.

    The million copy, ultimate #1 bestseller that is changing the way Americans eat and live Don't Diet Eat Chocolate Drink Wine Take Long Walks Enjoy Life Stay Slim the French way Experience the joie de ... (Goodreads)

  22. A People's History of the United States

    by Howard Zinn
    An examination of American history from a perspective of marginalized people.

    In the book, Zinn presented a different side of history from the more traditional "fundamental nationalist glorification of country". Zinn portrays a side of American history that can largely be seen ... (Goodreads)

  23. Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End

    by Atul Gawande
    An exploration of the human experience of mortality and the importance of end-of-life care.

    In, Being Mortal, author Atul Gawande tackles the hardest challenge of his profession: how medicine can not only improve life but also the process of its ending Medicine has triumphed in modern ... (Goodreads)

  24. The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

    by Eckhart Tolle
    A journey of self-transformation, learning to live in the present moment and liberate oneself.

    Eckhart Tolle's message is simple: living in the now is the truest path to happiness and enlightenment. And while this message may not seem stunningly original or fresh, Tolle's clear writing, ... (Goodreads)

  25. Stumbling on Happiness

    by Daniel Todd Gilbert
    A scientific exploration of why we often fail to predict what will make us happy and how we can find happiness in unexpected ways.

    • Why are lovers quicker to forgive their partners for infidelity than for leaving dirty dishes in the sink? • Why will sighted people pay more to avoid going blind than blind people will pay to ... (Goodreads)

  26. Born to Run: A Hidden Tribe, Superathletes, and the Greatest Race the World Has Never Seen

    by Christopher McDougall
    A thrilling exploration of the Tarahumara tribe and their superhuman running abilities.

    Full of incredible characters, amazing athletic achievements, cutting-edge science, and, most of all, pure inspiration, Born to Run is an epic adventure that began with one simple question: Why does ... (Goodreads)

  27. Braving the Wilderness: The Quest for True Belonging and the Courage to Stand Alone

    by Brené Brown
    A journey to find true belonging in an age of increasing polarization.

    #1, NEW YORK TIMES, BESTSELLER - A timely and important book that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the #1 ... (Goodreads)

  28. Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win

    by Jocko Willink
    How to lead and win through the lessons learned by the U.S. Navy SEALs.

    The #1 New York Times bestseller "An incredible book... you teach guys and gals about leadership and you've helped not only military guys but families." - Megyn Kelly "You show in the book how to ... (Goodreads)

  29. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

    by Robert B. Cialdini
    An analysis of the psychology of persuasion and how to use it to influence people.

    Influence, the classic book on persuasion, explains the psychology of why people say "yes"—and how to apply these understandings. Dr. Robert Cialdini is the seminal expert in the rapidly expanding ... (Goodreads)

  30. The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself

    by Michael A. Singer
    A spiritual exploration of the soul and its connection to the world.

    What would it be like to free yourself from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to discover inner peace and serenity? The Untethered Soul offers simple yet profound ... (Goodreads)