Recommendations based on The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelityby Esther Perel

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  1. Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic and the Domestic

    by Esther Perel
    An exploration of the challenges and opportunities of maintaining desire and passion in committed relationships.

    Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the ... (Goodreads)

  2. Dear Ijeawele, or a Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions

    by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
    A guide for raising children with feminist values, and advocating for gender equality.

    From the best-selling author of, Americanah, and, We Should All Be Feminists, comes a powerful new statement about feminism today–written as a letter to a friend. A few years ago, Chimamanda Ngozi ... (Goodreads)

  3. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life

    by Emily Nagoski
    An exploration of sexuality, examining how to create a fulfilling sex life.

    An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works—based on groundbreaking research and brain science—that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. ... (Barnes & Noble)

  4. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

    by Christopher Ryan
    An exploration of the evolutionary and cultural origins of human sexuality.

    Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. Mainstream science–as well as religious and cultural institutions--has maintained that men and women evolved ... (Goodreads)

  5. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success

    by Carol S. Dweck
    Examining the impact of mindset on achievement, and strategies to cultivate a growth mindset for success.

    A newer edition of this book can be found, here., After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D., discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the ... (Goodreads)

  6. First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Story About Anxiety

    by Sarah Wilson
    A personal account of living with anxiety and how to transform it into a positive force.

    New York Times Bestseller "Probably the best book on living with anxiety that I’ve ever read.” – Mark Manson, #1, New York Times, bestselling author of, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck,, The ... (Barnes & Noble)

  7. Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman

    by Lindy West
    A humorous and honest memoir about growing up as a woman, challenging societal norms.

    Coming of age in a culture that demands women be as small, quiet, and compliant as possible–like a porcelain dove that will also have sex with you--writer and humorist Lindy West quickly discovered ... (Goodreads)

  8. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities

    by Dossie Easton
    An exploration of ethical non-monogamy, providing insight into brave new approaches of intimate relationships.

    The essential guide for singles and couples who want to explore polyamory in ways that are ethically and emotionally sustainable. For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship ... (Goodreads)

  9. The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

    by Andrew Solomon
    Exhaustive exploration of depression, its causes, and its effects on individuals and society.

    With uncommon humanity, candor, wit, and erudition, award-winning author Andrew Solomon takes the reader on a journey of incomparable range and resonance into the most pervasive of family secrets. ... (Goodreads)

  10. A Higher Loyalty: Truth, Lies, and Leadership

    by James Comey
    Former FBI Director James Comey's memoir about his career and experiences with President Trump.

    Former FBI Director James Comey shares his never-before-told experiences from some of the highest-stakes situations of his career in the past two decades of American government, exploring what good, ... (Goodreads)

  11. Stumbling on Happiness

    by Daniel Todd Gilbert
    A scientific exploration of why we often fail to predict what will make us happy and how we can find happiness in unexpected ways.

    • Why are lovers quicker to forgive their partners for infidelity than for leaving dirty dishes in the sink? • Why will sighted people pay more to avoid going blind than blind people will pay to ... (Goodreads)

  12. Bad Feminist

    by Roxane Gay
    A collection of essays exploring feminism, race, and gender, and their intersections.

    Pink is my favorite color. I used to say my favorite color was black to be, cool, but it is pink—all shades of pink. If I have an accessory, it is probably pink. I read, Vogue, and I’m not doing it ... (Goodreads)

  13. Modern Romance

    by Aziz Ansari
    A humorous exploration of contemporary love, using the latest research and personal anecdotes.

    At some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love. We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection. ... (Goodreads)

  14. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones

    by James Clear
    A practical guide to creating and maintaining good habits, and breaking bad ones, using small, incremental changes.

    No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving–every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach ... (Goodreads)

  15. Thinking, Fast and Slow

    by Daniel Kahneman
    An exploration of the two systems of the mind, and how they influence decision-making.

    In the highly anticipated Thinking, Fast and Slow , Kahneman takes us on a groundbreaking tour of the mind and explains the two systems that drive the way we think. System 1 is fast, intuitive, and ... (Goodreads)

  16. Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

    by Lori Gottlieb
    A therapist's journey through therapy, exploring the human condition and the power of connection in healing.

    From a, New York Times, best-selling author, psychotherapist, and national advice columnist, a hilarious, thought-provoking, and surprising new book that takes us behind the scenes of a therapist's ... (Goodreads)

  17. Models: Attract Women Through Honesty

    by Mark Manson
    A guide to attracting women through honesty, vulnerability, and authenticity, rather than manipulation or deceit.

    Models is the first book ever written on seduction as an emotional process rather than a logical one, a process of connecting with women rather than impressing them. It's the most mature and honest ... (Barnes & Noble)

  18. The Millionaire Fastlane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime!

    by M.J. DeMarco
    A step-by-step guide to becoming a millionaire, exploring the secrets of wealth creation and financial freedom.

    **, THE MILLIONAIRE FASTLANE: NOW AN INTERNATIONAL BEST-SELLER!, ** TRANSLATED IN OVER 15 LANGUAGES WORLDWIDE!, ,** UPDATED AND REFRESHED FOR THE BITCOIN / CRYPTO ERA!, Is the financial plan of ... (Barnes & Noble)

  19. Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart

    by James R. Doty
    A neurosurgeon's journey to understand the power of the brain and the heart, inspired by a chance encounter with a young girl in a magic shop.

    The award-winning, New York Times, bestseller about the extraordinary things that can happen when we harness the power of both the brain and the heart Growing up in the high desert of California, Jim ... (Barnes & Noble)

  20. Meditations

    by Marcus Aurelius
    Reflections on Stoic philosophy, exploring the nature of existence and how to live life.

    Written in Greek by the only Roman emperor who was also a philosopher, without any intention of publication, the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius offer a remarkable series of challenging spiritual ... (Goodreads)

  21. The Personal MBA: Master the Art of Business

    by Josh Kaufman
    A comprehensive guide to business principles and practices, providing practical insights and tools for success in the business world.

    Master the fundamentals, hone your business instincts, and save a fortune in tuition. The consensus is clear: MBA programs are a waste of time and money. Even the elite schools offer outdated ... (Goodreads)

  22. Devil in the Grove: Thurgood Marshall, the Groveland Boys, and the Dawn of a New America

    by Gilbert King
    A gripping story of racial injustice in the Jim Crow-era America and the fight for justice.

    Devil in the Grove is the winner of the 2013 Pulitzer Prize for General Nonfiction. Arguably the most important American lawyer of the twentieth century, Thurgood Marshall was on the verge of ... (Goodreads)

  23. Theft by Finding: Diaries 1977-2002

    by David Sedaris
    A collection of diary entries from David Sedaris, showcasing his wit and humor while providing insight into his personal life and creative process.

    David Sedaris tells all in a book that is, literally, a lifetime in the making. For forty years, David Sedaris has kept a diary in which he records everything that captures his attention-overheard ... (Goodreads)

  24. A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles"

    by Marianne Williamson
    A spiritual guide to finding inner peace and love through the teachings of "A Course in Miracles".

    Back by popular demand – and newly updated by the author -- the mega-bestselling spiritual guide in which Marianne Williamson shares her reflections on A Course in Miracles and her insights on the ... (Goodreads)

  25. Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs

    by Johann Hari
    Investigative look into the history and consequences of drug prohibition.

    New York Times Bestseller It is now one hundred years since drugs were first banned in the United States. On the eve of this centenary, journalist Johann Hari set off on an epic three-year, ... (Goodreads)

  26. The Courage to Be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

    by Ichiro Kishimi
    Exploring the philosophical roots of happiness through the power of self-determination.

    The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness. The Courage to be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power ... (Goodreads)

  27. How Not to Die: Discover the Foods Scientifically Proven to Prevent and Reverse Disease

    by Michael Greger
    A guide to understanding the science behind healthy eating and living, to prevent and treat chronic diseases.

    From the physician behind the wildly popular website NutritionFacts.org, How Not to Die reveals the groundbreaking scientific evidence behind the only diet that can prevent and reverse many of the ... (Goodreads)

  28. On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

    by Stephen King
    A series of personal reflections on the art of writing, and the power of story-telling.

    "Long live the King" hailed Entertainment Weekly upon the publication of Stephen King's On Writing. Part memoir, part master class by one of the bestselling authors of all time, this superb volume is ... (Goodreads)

  29. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business

    by Charles Duhigg
    Uncovering the science of habit formation and how to use it to achieve success.

    A young woman walks into a laboratory. Over the past two years, she has transformed almost every aspect of her life. She has quit smoking, run a marathon, and been promoted at work. The patterns ... (Goodreads)

  30. Catch and Kill: Lies, Spies, and a Conspiracy to Protect Predators

    by Ronan Farrow
    Investigative journalist Ronan Farrow exposes the cover-up of sexual misconduct allegations against powerful men in media and politics.

    In 2017, a routine network television investigation led Ronan Farrow to a story only whispered about: one of Hollywood's most powerful producers was a predator, protected by fear, wealth, and a ... (Goodreads)