Recommendations based on Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Menby Lundy Bancroft

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  1. The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

    by Harriet Lerner
    A guide for women to identify and change patterns of anger in their intimate relationships, leading to healthier communication and self-growth.

    The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It ... (Barnes & Noble)

  2. The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence

    by Gavin de Becker
    Examining how fear can be used to protect oneself from violence, and how it is a valuable tool.

    True fear is a gift. Unwarranted fear is a curse. Learn how to tell the difference. A date won't take "no" for an answer. The new nanny gives a mother an uneasy feeling. A stranger in a deserted ... (Goodreads)

  3. Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'll Change

    by Robin Norwood
    Examining unhealthy relationships and how to break the cycle.

    This text is suitable for the reader for whom being in love means being in pain. Therapist Robin Norwood describes loving too much as a pattern of thoughts and behaviour which certain women develop ... (Goodreads)

  4. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

    by Judith Lewis Herman
    An in-depth exploration of trauma and its effects on individuals and society, and strategies for recovery.

    When Trauma and Recovery was first published in 1992, it was hailed as a groundbreaking work. In the intervening years, Herman’s volume has changed the way we think about and treat traumatic events ... (Goodreads)

  5. Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution.

    by Brené Brown
    An exploration of how to courageously confront hardship and use it to build strength and resilience.

    Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability—the willingness to show ... (Goodreads)

  6. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

    by Bessel van der Kolk
    Examining the physical, psychological and emotional effects of trauma, and how to heal.

    A pioneering researcher and one of the world’s foremost experts on traumatic stress offers a bold new paradigm for healing. Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful ... (Goodreads)

  7. The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

    by Gary Chapman
    Understanding individual love language to strengthen relationships and build lasting love.

    Over 12 million copies sold! ,, A, New York Times, bestseller for 10 years running., Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and ... (Barnes & Noble)

  8. The Hidden Messages in Water

    by Masaru Emoto
    An exploration into the connection between human emotion and the molecular structure of water.

    In this, New,, York,, Times, bestseller, internationally renowned Japanese scientist Masaru Emoto shows how the influence of our thoughts, words and feelings on molecules of water can positively ... (Goodreads)

  9. Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders DSM-IV-TR

    by American Psychiatric Association
    Comprehensive guide to understanding and classifying mental disorders.

    This Text Revision incorporates information culled from a comprehensive literature review of research about mental disorders published since the DSM-IV(R) of 1994. Updated information is included ... (Goodreads)

  10. The Gifts of Imperfection

    by Brené Brown
    A guide to self-acceptance, embracing imperfections and finding courage, compassion and connection.

    In this groundbreaking New York Times best seller, Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor and thought leader on vulnerability , courage , worthiness , and shame , shares ten guideposts on the power of ... (Goodreads)

  11. Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

    by Henry Cloud
    A practical guide to setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in all areas of life.

    Boundaries is the book that's helped over 4 million people learn when to say yes and know how to say no in order to take control of their lives. Does your life feel like it's out of control? Perhaps ... (Barnes & Noble)

  12. The Beauty Myth

    by Naomi Wolf
    A critical analysis of the societal pressure on women to conform to beauty standards and its impact on their lives.

    The bestselling classic that redefined our view of the relationship between beauty and female identity. In today's world, women have more power, legal recognition, and professional success than ever ... (Goodreads)

  13. White Rage: The Unspoken Truth of Our Racial Divide

    by Carol Anderson
    Examination of systemic racism in the United States and its effects on African Americans.

    From the Civil War to our combustible present,, White Rage r,eframes our continuing conversation about race, chronicling the powerful forces opposed to black progress in America–now in paperback with ... (Goodreads)

  14. The Fire Next Time

    by James Baldwin
    Reflection on the plight of African Americans in a candid and deeply moving essay.

    A national bestseller when it first appeared in 1963, The Fire Next Time galvanized the nation and gave passionate voice to the emerging civil rights movement. At once a powerful evocation of James ... (Goodreads)

  15. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

    by Melody Beattie
    A guide for overcoming codependency and finding a healthier, more fulfilling life.

    In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The ... (Barnes & Noble)

  16. The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self

    by Alice Miller
    A psychoanalytic study of childhood trauma and its impact on adult life, exploring the search for the true self.

    The bestselling book on childhood trauma and the enduring effects of repressed anger and pain Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and ... (Goodreads)

  17. Between the World and Me

    by Ta-Nehisi Coates
    A letter to his son, exploring the realities of racism in America.

    “This is your country, this is your world, this is your body, and you must find some way to live within the all of it.” In a profound work that pivots from the biggest questions about American ... (Goodreads)

  18. Under the Banner of Heaven: A Story of Violent Faith

    by Jon Krakauer
    An exploration of the fundamentalist Mormon faith, its history, and the power of religious extremism.

    A Story of Violent Faith A multilayered, bone-chilling narrative of messianic delusion, savage violence, polygamy, and unyielding faith. This is vintage Krakauer, an utterly compelling work of ... (Goodreads)

  19. Are Prisons Obsolete?

    by Angela Y. Davis
    Critique of existing prison systems and exploration of alternative solutions.

    With her characteristic brilliance, grace and radical audacity, Angela Y. Davis has put the case for the latest abolition movement in American life: the abolition of the prison. As she quite ... (Goodreads)

  20. Assata: An Autobiography

    by Assata Shakur
    A powerful memoir of her struggles and triumphs in the face of racism and oppression.

    On May 2, 1973, Black Panther Assata Shakur (aka JoAnne Chesimard) lay in a hospital, close to death, handcuffed to her bed, while local, state, and federal police attempted to question her about the ... (Goodreads)

  21. We Wish to Inform You That Tomorrow We Will Be Killed with Our Families

    by Philip Gourevitch
    True story of the 1994 Rwandan genocide and its aftermath, told through the eyes of survivors.

    In April of 1994, the government of Rwanda called on everyone in the Hutu majority to kill everyone in the Tutsi minority. Over the next three months, 800,000 Tutsis were murdered in the most ... (Goodreads)

  22. Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town

    by Jon Krakauer
    A harrowing account of sexual assaults in Missoula, Montana and the failures of the justice system to bring justice to the victims.

    Missoula, Montana, is a typical college town, home to a highly regarded state university whose beloved football team inspires a passionately loyal fan base. Between January 2008 and May 2012, ... (Barnes & Noble)

  23. It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy

    by Greg Behrendt
    A witty and practical guide for women going through a breakup, offering advice and support to help them move on and find happiness.

    A must-have manual for finding your way back to an even more rocking you. Greg and his wife, Amiira, share their hilarious and helpful roadmap for getting past the heartache and back into the game., ... (Barnes & Noble)

  24. The Gift of Therapy: An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients

    by Irvin D. Yalom
    A guide to the principles of psychotherapy, exploring the relationship between therapist and patient.

    Acclaimed author and renowned psychiatrist Irvin D. Yalom distills thirty-five years of psychotherapy wisdom into one brilliant volume. The culmination of master psychiatrist Dr. Irvin D. Yalom’s ... (Barnes & Noble)

  25. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness

    by Kay Redfield Jamison
    An exploration of bipolar disorder and its impact on one's life.

    The personal memoir of a manic depressive and an authority on the subject describes the onset of the illness during her teenage years and her determined journey through the realm of available ... (Goodreads)

  26. Know My Name

    by Chanel Miller
    A memoir of a sexual assault survivor, reclaiming her identity and sharing her journey towards healing and justice.

    A, NEW YORK TIMES, BESTSELLER,",Know My Name, is a gut-punch, and in the end, somehow, also blessedly hopeful.",—Washington Post, Universally acclaimed, rapturously reviewed, and an instant New York ... (Barnes & Noble)

  27. Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality

    by Christopher Ryan
    An exploration of the evolutionary and cultural origins of human sexuality.

    Since Darwin's day, we've been told that sexual monogamy comes naturally to our species. Mainstream science–as well as religious and cultural institutions--has maintained that men and women evolved ... (Goodreads)

  28. Warriors Don't Cry: A Searing Memoir of the Battle to Integrate Little Rock's Central High

    by Melba Pattillo Beals
    An autobiographical account of a young African American student's struggle to attend an all-white high school in 1957.

    In this essential autobiographical account by one of the Civil Rights Movement’s most powerful figures, Melba Pattillo Beals of the Little Rock Nine explores not only the oppressive force of racism, ... (Goodreads)

  29. The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

    by Marie Kondō
    A guide to mastering the art of decluttering and organizing for a more fulfilling life.

    #1, NEW YORK TIMES, BESTSELLER • The book that sparked a revolution and inspired the hit Netflix series, Tidying Up with Marie Kondo,: the original guide to decluttering your home once and for all. ... (Barnes & Noble)

  30. Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

    by Cheryl Strayed
    Collection of heartfelt advice from a wise and compassionate storyteller.

    Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills - and it can be great: you've had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the ... (Goodreads)